Woman Banished From the Bridal Party After Losing 50lbs Because Bridezilla Doesn't Want Anyone Stealing the Spotlight, Then the Ex-Bridesmaid Revokes Her RSVP

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    comfortable with that and didn't want to be part of her wedding if she couldn't accept me as I am. Now, she's upset with me and says I'm being selfish and making her day about me.
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    AITA for refusing to attend my best friend's wedding after she asked me to give up my role as a bridesmaid because of my wedding weight loss?
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    I've (28F) been friends with "Jess" (29F) for years, and we've been through a lot together. When she got engaged, she asked me to be one of her bridesmaids.
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    I was thrilled, but at the time, I wasn't happy with my weight, so I committed to losing some pounds before the wedding. Fast forward six months, and I've lost over 50 pounds through diet and exercise.
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    When Jess saw my progress, she pulled me aside and asked if I could step down from the bridesmaid role because she felt I "might look too good" next to her and the other bridesmaids. She
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    said it would make her feel insecure and the photos might look awkward. I was shocked and really hurt, especially since I worked hard to lose weight and was proud of my progress.
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    I told her I wasn't comfortable with that and didn't want to be part of her wedding if she couldn't accept me as I am. Now, she's upset with me and
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    says I'm being selfish and making her day about me. AITA for refusing to attend the wedding if I'm not allowed to be a bridesmaid anymore?
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    iknowsomethings2 NTA. Friends are supposed to be supportive and uplifting. She could have said 'you look AMAZING, please tell me your tips and let's do this together'. But no, she's a bride who's picked bridesmaids she thinks don't look as pretty as her. She's insecure and frankly not a great friend. I would re-examine that friendship.
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    QuietWalk2505 She was never your real friend. She is insecure, I know that is the issue. Just glow, OP. Shine, remember that. Be happy and remember, friends-real friends are never jealous
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    mssheevaa Definitely. My bestie is way prettier than I am. Not self- deprecating, I just have eyes, lol. There's no way she's not going to be a major part of my wedding. I want to celebrate with everyone I love. Not having her because she's prettier is unthinkable to me.
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    donname10 Maybe you're too beautiful to be bridesmaid Its ok sweetheart, enjoy you success. Dont let people put you down. Go mini vacation on her wedding day
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    CockroachInfinite310 Lol right? OP's glow up is literally too much for them to handle she deserves to feel proud and do her thing, even if that means skipping the wedding. Treat yourself to that vacay!
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    Mummylicious Years ago a friend mentioned to me that she doesn't want pretty bridesmaids. She also dressed them in a terribly unflattering colour, they looked washed out. I don't get it, I would want beautiful pictures with everyone looking beautiful? Why are people like this?
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    RadiantCharm Babe Weddings are supposed to be about celebrating love and joy with the people you care about, not some weird competition over who looks the best.
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    Belleboo- NTA. Your glow-up is for you, not against anyone else. It's kinda off that your friend is making your health wins about her insecurities. You deserve to be celebrated, not sidelined!
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    NaasOz I lost a 25-year "friendship" because I lost weight. I came to realise that the only reason she was friends with me was because I was fatter than her, and it made her feel better about herself. As soon as I lost weight and was skinnier, she turned into a mean girl.
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    Sometimes, people you have known for a long time are not your friends. You are their props in life, and once you move outside your place, you are a threat/no longer useful. It's up to you if you go to the wedding.
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    Do what will make you happy in the long run. If you choose not to go, then go and treat yourself to a job well done on losing all that weight. You've done a fantastic thing for yourself.

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